2012 – Common Ground

Common Ground in Relationships

Sharing Common Ground, I actually always took this point for granted, when being with others, while being in a relationship. I assumed that there had to be some kind of common ground other wise we wouldn’t be friends, or in a relationship or what ever we were doing together.  So yeah one can share common ground like e.g. sex, playing, sports, hobbies,books, study, or  what ever one can have in common when being in a relationship.

Actually this assumption that what we have in common is actually ‘enough’ or ‘ok’  this misconception of reality fucked/screwed me extensively because I didn’t actually know and understand that when one in fact shares as the common ground is what we currently accept as it .

And we all know what atrocity we have manifested as such.

One will create and manifest just that within relationships what’s accepted as our current Common Ground which is the world we are living in.

It took me a while to start grasping the content of it, understanding it for real.

So actually what I always  tried to do was establishing a common ground with people – lol I always did probably all do!  Now this understanding of a common ground has changed a bit over the last years – I’m in a process of  realigning myself with whats best for all Life and I committed myself to bring about a world that’s best for all!

So if I now meet people or hang out with people from my past I see that we all accept our current stand as our shared common ground. That well basically its just that – there is no common ground that’s best for all yet and there will be no common ground unless the other person(s) all participants within the relationship commit themselves to walk into being what’s best for all in all ways in all forms and commit and dedicate their lives to it until it’s done.

I’d experienced severe difficulty with this specific point in the past and actually only recently started grasping how it actually goes down. So yeah common ground can only be established and is only real when one shares and walks the same commitment into being.

There only exist one valid commitment, to commit oneself to bring about  whats best for all.

I commit myself to be part of a group of people who are bringing about what’s best for all in all ways in all forms and all that are walking this commitment to dedicate their life’s to it as the sole purpose of living in the given time walking this earth. I commit myself while walking among those that haven’t yet realised that whats best for all is best for them until that point I express clarity whenever I see an opening, a window of opportunity to do so. I commit myself to only align myself with those that are walking which I am walking, so that in this process no one can cheat b/c all have walked and re-aligned themselves as the process as the commitment of walking into being that’s what’s best for all as the purpose of living in the time walking on this earth.

2011 Meditation silence your Ability to change for Real

When I was ‘into’ yoga and meditation I always heard the phrase: “Let go!” I got to a point where I concluded that I didn’t understood what I had to let go off and furthermore how to let go. Sitting in the meditation classroom I was looking around; everyone sitting still -including me -being in a deep hypnotic state because really what else can it be then a conditioned state of being where you silence the mind for a moment, – balance yourself in a place in the middle – before you go ‘back’ to the old ways and become the same person as you were before. That’s how I experienced myself after meditation, never being able to hold onto this perceived silence of mind.

I was kind of leaning towards a point of addiction to sit ‘still’, trying to get into a state of trance/hypnosis or perceived silence. To have a sense of ‘I’ am doing ‘Good’; ‘I’ am Caring ‘I’am ‘Love’; ‘I’am Light; ‘I’am ‘Bliss’; ‘I’am ‘United’ ‘I’am ‘Silence’; ‘I’am ‘Infinite’; ‘I’am ‘Spirit’ and more of such ‘enlightened’ symbols that meditation carries. I actually never knew WTF I was busy with yet it gave me a sense of ‘doing something good in unity’ and a sense of  ‘serenity’.

“Yoga stills the fluctuation of the mind” Pantanjali Yoga sutra’s 1.2

The rise and fall of flow of thoughts, feelings and emotions and the quest of silencing this ‘flow’ can’t be walked if one doesn’t yet understand, nor investigate the ‘fluctuation’ as thoughts, feelings and emotions in its totality. The raw truth of our physical actions as the rise and fall of flow as thoughts, feelings and emotion is what we have become and live. The inherent urge to silence the mind this automated stream of thoughts, feelings and emotions shows us that we aren’t the ones in Control. It shows us by wanting ‘silence’ and ‘peace of mind’ that we perceive something disturbing and wrong within the constant stream of the mind as experience. Meditation then becomes trying to silence the mind thus to control the constant stream without knowing what you are dealing with.

 

Yoga is mediation in action

Within the above perspective given on “Yoga stills the fluctuation of the mind” you can revisit the phrase: “Yoga is mediation in action” and see for yourself when forcing yourself into silence as a perceived physical action will eventually lead to friction and frustration and the suppressed parts of self will eventually express itself. It’s saying to a child: -“Sit still or Stop playing.” Impossible! It’s inherent within its nature to express it self. That’s a law within this reality! One should ask oneself what do we want to silence and why and how did we end up by wanting to silence this automated stream of thoughts,our inherent Human Nature is that we are controlled by the automated fluctuations of the mind.

 

My next step was looking at the term Ahimsa:

Ahimsa (Sanskrit: Devanagari; अहिंसा; IAST ahisā, Pāli: avihisā) is a term meaning to do no harm (literally: the avoidance of violence – himsa). It is an important tenet of the Indian religions (Hinduism, Buddhism and especially Jainism). Ahimsa means kindness and non-violence towards all living things including animals; it respects living beings as a unity, the belief that all living things are connected. Indian leader Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi strongly believed in this principle.[1] Avoidance of verbal and physical violence is also a part of this principle, although ahimsa recognizes self-defense when necessary, as a sign of a strong spirit. It is closely connected with the notion that all kinds of violence entail negative karmic consequences.

This terminology was ‘speaking’ to me because really: Who doesn’t want to be seen as the one that is doing no harm and is kind and non violence towards all living things?  Seems cool and promising to become and be such a person. I mean yeah it’s seen as good characteristics and highly valuated by all.

It seems so kind and loving and caring yet when having another look at what it actually practically physically entails. You will see how the above words only encompasses a state of being that contains thoughts/feelings and nothing of real substance that will give you any practical tools so you can utilize it to establish: Doing no Harm. Claiming such state of being: “Doing no Harm” with no practical tools given other then: -“Be love”; “Be light”; “Be Bliss”, “Be good”, “Be unity”; Be kindness; “Be non violent”. The total absence of any substantial practical tool that can be utilized by All to manifest Doing No Harm doesn’t makes sense. A hollow set of words without any substance/physicality to it.  ‘Ahimsa’ can only be real, when manifesting doing No Harm into being for All. Equal Money for All is such an Real act of doing no Harm. Become and live the words that have been scripted: “Do unto other what you would have them do unto you.” Simplicity – Be harm less.

It is easy and tempting to ‘fall’ for definitions such a promises and hope wrapped up in nice words within religion, new age and spirituality. We are All so lost that most of us look for solace in religion/spirituality or anything that can guide you to make sense out of our world/reality we’re living in.

We should ask ourselves whether our actions in the quest of “silencing the mind” are beneficial for All or only benefit ourselves, only bettering ourselves. We must include the physical reality of our world, and what the words we are living as definitions brings about practically, substantially as the manifested reality we are living in.

Being Silent is a physical action, walked into Being through real labor the tools that are pillars of support within walking being harmless are: -Self Forgiveness, Self Honesty, Self Corrective application, writing yourself to freedom and studying the principle of Oneness and Equality which is studying our world/this reality and thus how you as All came about.

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